In Japan, there is a cultural philosophy known as Syojin, representing the devotion to living a humble life. This principle has been exemplified by my 100-year-old aunt, who celebrated her centennial birthday in January. Throughout my life, she has embodied grace, elegance, and peace.
Having served as the chief priest and leader of a local shrine until her 90s, she remains a beacon of wisdom and inspiration. Here are her five hard rules for achieving a long, happy, and meaningful life:
1. Live with Gratitude
Each day, my aunt expresses arigato (“thank you”) and kansha shimasu (“I am grateful”). Her appreciation extends beyond mere words; she feels thankful for her ancestors, community, spiritual practices, and her health.
Her philosophy promotes the idea that worrying serves no purpose. Instead, she teaches that acceptance is vital, encouraging others to conserve energy for things they can control. Each morning, I reflect on gratitude and connect with my roots by praying to my ancestors, offering incense, and journaling my thanks.
2. Don’t Take Your Food for Granted
My aunt has a disciplined diet, drinking green tea and focusing on vegetables, tofu, and fish while avoiding smoking and red meat. She teaches mindfulness during meals, emphasizing slow chewing and appreciation for every taste. Her favorite fruit, yuzu, not only boosts immunity with vitamin C but also enhances relaxation when added to baths.
She inspires her family to cook traditional recipes, like her beloved “longevity hot pot,” filled with nutritious ingredients:
- 3 cups dashi stock (or chicken broth)
- 2 x 2 inch piece of kombu
- 2 soaked dried shiitake mushrooms
- 4 cups sliced napa cabbage
- 3 cups assorted seasonal greens, leeks, and carrots
- 1 package of firm tofu (or 3-ounce salmon fillet)
- 1-2 tablespoons chopped ginger
- 2 tablespoons dried seaweed
- 2 tablespoons miso (or 1 tablespoon soy sauce)
- Glass noodles (optional)
3. Build a Community and Be Welcoming
The phrase genki-dene reflects my aunt’s commitment to caring for those around her. She fosters a sense of belonging, welcoming everyone into her home as honored guests. From sharing tea to providing thoughtful conversation, she ensures no visitor leaves empty-handed.
This nurturing environment greatly contributes to her longevity, illustrating the power of community forged through connection.
4. Accept Your Limitations
Aging can challenge our perceptions of capability, yet my aunt encourages gratitude for what she can still achieve, asking for assistance when necessary. Regular visits to community centers and a commitment to maintaining an active lifestyle, including walks and group activities, illustrate her adaptability.
Though my cousin assists with cooking, she still enjoys preparing simple dishes like Japanese omelets.
5. Find Something to Believe In
As a shrine chief, my aunt led annual rituals, including mountain climbs, affirming the importance of faith in her life. Her robust commitment to spirituality is expressed in the prayers she recites with fervor.
Her unwavering passion and belief have underpinned her mental and physical resilience through the years, solidifying her role as an inspiring figure in my life.
Learning from her lifestyle has imparted invaluable peace and courage into my journey.
Michiko Tomioka, MBA, RDN, is a certified nutritionist focusing on the connection between diet and longevity, emphasizing plant-based meals. Follow her on Instagram @michian_rd for more insights.
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